peter.banka's blog

Problems impact us in different ways depending upon our emotional investment in them. Some problems have huge emotional weight to them, and some don’t. When a problem has no negative emotional component, then we aren’t carrying any thoughts of “right” and “wrong.” Perhaps common activities such as assembling a jigsaw puzzle or building a house or changing the doing the dishes could fall into this category. It’s not wrong, for example, that the dishes need to be scrubbed with steel wool.

I have a friend (I'll call her Nancy) who has been in a constant state of fear about one thing or another for the past few months: projects she is working on, relationships she has. She has been through a large number of stressors in the last few months: moving, new friends, etc. Furthermore, she has a history of psychosomatic illnesses, and in recent weeks she has developed a sharp increase in the amount of bodily problems she has had.